Ten – Counting to Ten

Ten is such a number that we can all almost relate to.

When you celebrate the end of a year and do a countdown to welcome the new year, we all start from 10 or when you’re teaching a young child their first numbers, you feel a sense of accomplishment when they can count from 1 to 10.  It is a number that makes me feel complete.

I use the number 10 in many ways to deal with different things.  When I am angry, I count to 10 before arguing with someone to realise that it is not worth it or when I’m exercising and use 10 to count my reps.

It also marks a milestone when you reach 10 years old, 10-year anniversary.  The number comes with a sense of celebration, accomplishment and the end of an era / start of something new.

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3-Days-3-Quotes Day 3

Thank you to Ayoka for nominating me for this challenge.  Please see my day 3 quotes, last one for this challenge.

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These are the rules for the challenge:

  1. Three quotes for three days
  2. Three nominees each day (no repetition)
  3. Thank the person that nominated you
  4. Inform the nominees

I would like to nominate the following bloggers:

Christine Valentor

alexi1872

Dreamer on a Cloud

Hope you all enjoyed my quotes!

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3-Days-3-Quotes Challenge Day 2

Thank you to Ayoka for nominating me.  Please see my day 2 challenge quotes, hope you enjoy!

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These are the rules for the challenge:

  1. Three quotes for three days
  2. Three nominees each day (no repetition)
  3. Thank the person that nominated you
  4. Inform the nominees

I would like to nominate the following bloggers:

Spoon You Fork Me

tastefullysimplewithjohn

juantetcts

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3-Days-3-Quotes Challenge Day 1

Thank you to Ayoka for nominating me for this challenge.  I am very excited about this as quotes make my day and really inspire me.

These are my 3 quotes for the first day:

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These are the rules for the challenge:

  1. Three quotes for three days
  2. Three nominees each day (no repetition)
  3. Thank the person that nominated you
  4. Inform the nominees

I would like to nominate the following bloggers:

Fabwritings

The Viper Pit Memoirs

Belle Papillon

Thank you once again to Ayoka for nominating me.  I hope you all enjoy the quotes.

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Losing confidence over negative remarks

“If you haven’t got anything nice to say about anybody come sit next to me.” ― Alice Roosevelt Longworth

I have never been a confident person to the point where I have always feared what other people would think of me, whether they would like me and if I can actually accomplish what I intentionally set out to do.

So how is it that when I finally overcome and conquer my fears and do something that I am personally passionate about, whether it’d be something that someone has done before or a something that you have been working on for some time that it just takes that one negative remark to set you back to the beginning again? Or how is that when you overcome the “fear” of a person you didn’t relate to properly or didn’t get a connection with but you try your hardest to be good with that person but deep down you still have that fear and you can’t be yourself because you know at some point, they’re going to put you down?

How can negative remarks play such an influence on your mind? How do you overcome those negative remarks? Whenever I get put into that situation, for a good few days the remark(s) and situation will play on my mind so much to the extent where I can’t think about anything else, my mood completely changes, I overthink everything and I get put into that place of anxiety and feeling scared. It is like that feeling where you’re drowning underwater and your arms are flailing around, your legs are kicking away trying to get out and get some air, but you can’t. So you’re helplessly trying to scream and ask for help but no noise comes out and you swallow even more water that pushes you down.

Even though I have my people that I can speak to that would always be there for me day or night, who would help through every situation I have been in and they tell me over and over again that I shouldn’t be scared or feel anxious. Combined with their positive attitude and their boost of energy and confidence that what I am out to pursue or trying to accomplish is great, I still can’t overcome the feeling that lies inside me. That twitchy feeling that has been knocking on my mind for so many days reminding me at every possible point that it is still around and here to stay for a while. I wake up feeling tired and being in a state of panic.

I know when I look back after a few weeks, months or years I would laugh at myself for ever feeling like that and part of me will hate that I let myself get to that point but how do you deal with the feeling at that moment in time? That feeling of drowning away underwater.

After going through this a lot of times in my life in very different situations, I have learnt that saying of “who cares what others say or think”. So why should you care if someone hates you for doing what you want to do and have such a passion for? Why should you care if they cut you off, be short with you or talk about you? Whether it is a good thing they’re saying or a bad thing, they’re talking about you nonetheless. You’ve obviously made some sort of an impact in their lives that they’ve taken time out to actually speak about you.

“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear” famously said by Paulo Coelho and I can’t stress that enough, even to myself when I get put in that horrible dark corner. At the end of the day, you have got to do what you feel is right, you can’t make everyone happy and even if by a miracle you did make everyone happy, they would always find something else to negatively remark about.

I’ve found that there will always be that one person or something who will help you overcome that fear. Hang onto that person, be that it is your best friend, your parents, your partner whoever it may be. Maybe it is something you do to get yourself out of that situation, reading, walking, going away somewhere, do it. Whoever that person is or whatever that thing is, is your lifesaver. It is that person or thing that can see you’re drowning away and they’ve jumped in to pull you out or they’ve chucked in a rescue boat/ring to help you get on and out of those deep murky waters. Where now you can breathe in the air, you’re in control of your body and mind and you’re not stuck. When you come out of that dark place you see the light, you smell the fresh air and you feel rejuvenated and so use that to move on, complete what you set out to do and do it with all your confidence and might.

The best way that I deal with being stuck in that dark corner is by writing down how I feel, who or what made me feel that way and finally speaking to someone about it. Even by writing how I feel, it feels like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders, even if I end up breaking down and crying through the process. It is my way of just letting go and getting myself back to the person I was. Speaking to someone that has taken their time out to listen to you and understand how you feel gives you that reassurance to carry on with what you’re doing.

Lastly, you have to look out for yourself. Don’t put yourself in that place where you can’t get out, don’t let other people’s words or actions affect the way you feel. It is always easier said than done but until you focus on that and recite it to yourself and actually use it, you will always go back to how you felt before. Be confident about whatever you’re trying to accomplish and if someone wants to put you down and say negative things, then let them.

As the musician Marvin Gaye said “If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else”.

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Miniature – Children

Aren’t all children miniatures of their parents? The way they look, act and behave.
It is said that young children pick up on everything that they see around them, especially on how their parents behave. My husband and I have very quickly learnt this from our little baby girl. Whilst some of the actions that she copies are extremely cute, like fake coughing and waving to say hi, some of them are actually not good for her, such as the fake cry when we take her toys away or screaming in anger when we don’t let do what she wants.

It is however, so amazing how these little humans will grow up to be an adult just like us. The way that God has created these little babies, how the mother looks after them in the womb for 9 months and how they take 50/50 from both parents and are small miniatures of them down to the smallest detail.

So let’s try and make these small little miniatures of us grow up to be splendid adults that we can be proud of.

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Learning – Everything

After being away for 2 weeks to spend time with my family and be on holiday, I am now back to blogging.

Learning; this is something that has to be done whenever we try something new for the first time. We learn until we master it. I didn’t realise how even the smallest things that we take for granted or not even pay attention to was actually something that we didn’t know how to do before. I came to this realisation and thought about it more deeply when I had my baby daughter. When she took her first breath, to rolling around, to eating food and now crawling and talking gibberish.

Everything we do for the first time is new and sometimes when we get angry or lose our temper at parents/older people for not understanding something that we find easy, we tend to forget that there were things that we didn’t know how to do and they were there to teach us. Or when we get angry at small children for not understanding the word “no” because they are trying to explore and figure things out for themselves but not realising that we also didn’t know the same thing at their age.

Going to school, university and getting a job are all a form of learning but we do things in our everyday life that sometimes we don’t realise but have learnt something new.

We should be grateful that we are able to do things we can, as not all are as fortunate as us and that we have the opportunity to learn more everyday. So I encourage for you all to go out there and learn something new, whether it is a small or big thing, you’re learning. That is something that no-one can take away from you.

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